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How To Be OrgasmicHow to become orgasmic home page You may or may not want sex as you learn to become fully orgasmic. However, it's likely your man will want sex.Here are some suggestions about how you might manage the situation, perhaps by using masturbation. If your man wishes to have sex with you as you learn how to be orgasmic during sex, and you don't want this level of intimacy - which is possible - then you may be in a difficult situation unless you can offer him some alternative. The most obvious way you can get round this is by asking him to masturbate or by offering to pleasure him yourself in this way. He can then continue to enjoy satisfying orgasms, with your support, as you enjoy intimacy with him. One of the advantages of this compromise is that he can
masturbate with you without losing the pleasure of regular orgasm, yet at the
same time the emotional pressure associated with full intercourse is removed as
you work on your sexual responsiveness and orgasmic potential. From his point of
view, orgasm by masturbation may not seem as attractive as intercourse, but with
a bit of understanding and tolerance, it can be a good compromise. Being able to masturbate as your partner develops her capacity to enjoy orgasms will allow you to experience sexual pleasure at the same time as making it easier for her to practice the exercises which will lead her to a much richer enjoyment of sex and orgasm. If you are willing to masturbate instead of enjoy sex with her, she will not have sense that you have been deprived of sex and orgasms because of her actions: and this will increase the likelihood of her developing her full orgasmic potential. She needs, at this point, to be able to focus on her own needs and sensitivities, not to be worrying about whether or not you are sexually satisfied! At the same time, because she is doing this work, and you won't be having sex, you don't have to worry about whether or not you will be able to "give her an orgasm". The responsibility for her orgasm ultimately lies with her, and it is her work which will allow her to develop to the place where she can reach orgasm easily. You don't have to worry about this if you are willing to masturbate to orgasm instead of enjoying intercourse. Furthermore, you will probably be surprised how much you enjoy some of the sensuous exercises in the program, which are about getting in touch with your body and enhancing your capacity to enjoy physical pleasure (which may just mean enjoying touch and physical closeness, not necessarily sex). For the woman: Make sure that you are whole-hearted about having your man enjoy masturbation, especially if you are sharing the experience with him. The fact that you aren't having sex with him is a choice, and you need to be committed to that choice. If you feel in some way that the fact that he is not having sex with you represents a rejection of your femininity or your attractiveness, think again! This is a choice that you've made to help you along the path to full orgasmic potential. And there is the possibility that he may not wish to
masturbate, that he can accept the situation just as it is, in other words, that
not having sex and not having orgasms is acceptable for him - at least on a
temporary basis. The sensuous massage experiences are well worth incorporating into your sexual routine, both before, during and after the program which we have set out in this website. Such physical contact through massage can provide added closeness and emotional (re)connection between a couple, and certainly will enhance your relationship if there are no other major issues to deal with except the non-orgasm of the woman. How to be orgasmic - sensual massage How to become orgasmic home page
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