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Menstruation
Do you recall the first time you
menstruated? Depending on how much information you received in advance
(and afterwards) you will have experienced a variety of emotions ranging
from sheer terror to pride to pleasure and even delight - and anything
in between.
However, terms like "on the rag" or
"the curse" can give women a very negative view of a perfectly normal
and natural process, and leave a residue of shame around female
sexuality. And since most women do not discover the pleasure of
masturbation before they have their first period, the first bleeding
cycle is the first real connection most women have with their own female
sexuality. It is not surprising that this can lead to a woman's sense of
her sexuality being muddled up with a lot of shame and guilt.
The Monthly Cycle: Changes
and Feelings
The start of the menstrual blood flow
every twenty-eight to thirty-six days marks the first day of
a new cycle. The two key things that happen in the cycle are ovulation and
menstruation. The key factor is a change in estrogen level, which
gradually increases from day one of the cycle, stimulating the growth of
the egg in the ovary. The egg is released during ovulation about fourteen days later,
more or less mid-cycle, and it then goes along the fallopian tube on its journey to the uterus.
You may feel different for two or three days
around ovulation; for one thing, some women feel more interested in sex
around this time. Changes in your hormone levels can cause emotional
highs and lows as well as bodily changes: both the quantity and texture
of your vaginal fluids may change during your cycle. You may also find
your breasts are more sensitive and change size, that you gain weight,
and have headaches in the three to five days before menstruation. A
variety of symptoms collectively known as premenstrual syndrome (PMS)
may appear in the days before the menstrual flow; these include mood changes,
fatigue, irritability, and restlessness.
A woman's cycles may be irregular during
her
adolescence and middle age. This is quite normal, as hormone levels rise
and fall dramatically during adolescence and menopause. Even between
these times, the
regularity and length of the menstrual cycle can be affected by many
things, including obesity, anorexia, breast-feeding, regular
sexual activity with men, emotional problems and stress and serious
illness or disease.
You may find that you have greater
sexual desire at a certain point of your cycle - the pattern is
different in different women. Some women do not notice any difference in
their sexual desire, sexual interest, or sexual activity through their
cycle. Some are more sexual at mid-cycle (around ovulation); some are
more sexual just before menstruation; other just after menstruation.
There is no one natural pattern.
Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS)
Before the menstrual flow begins, many women feel irritable, depressed,
tired and experience water retention and/or weight gain of between one
and five
pounds). Other women feel dizzy, tense, anxious, indecisive, have
bloating, headaches and a variety of other symptoms. The intensity of
the complaints varies considerably between women. But oddly enough, the
exact cause of PMS remains unknown, though it is likely to be
hormone-related. You can try and deal with it in a variety of ways:
Nutrition
A change of diet may help if you have swollen and sore breasts, weight
gain, bloating, or migraine headaches. Wholesome foods like fruits, nuts
and plain yogurt are good, while high carbohydrate and high salt
foods contribute to water retention. Drinking water helps, while
caffeine-filled drinks
increase fluid retention. Chocolate contains caffeine and can aggravate
or initiate migraine headaches.
Alcohol
If you suffer from PMS, a glass of wine or beer per day in the
premenstrual days is a good idea. Not only does it have lots of
carbohydrates, it is a depressant as well!
Exercise and relaxation
One thing that everyone agrees on is
the need to keep fit and healthy. Apart from the benefits of exercise on
the body, regular exercise can improve your mood and keep your spirits
high! A great plan is to enjoy twenty to thirty minutes of
aerobic exercise several times a week..
And relaxation is important, too: so
make an effort to have relaxation time, even if you feel selfish doing
so! You are not perfect, and you're certainly not superwoman, so don't
take on too much, learn to say "no", and find the time to relax.
Drugs
No drugs alleviate all PMS symptoms in all
women. But Vitamin B1, (pyridoxine), taken three to four days
prior to menstrual flow, helps some women. Taking the contraceptive pill
certainly helps. And some women have found relief with ibuprofen.
Menstrual pain
Menstrual cramps can be debilitating, especially
during the first thirty-six hours of the menstrual flow. For up to a
third of women, the pain is so great that it stops their usual activities.
For these women, cramping in the lower abdomen,
backache, nausea, headache, faintness, dizziness, and waves of hot or cold
sensations are all too familar.
Primary menstrual pain is due to contractions
of the uterus. Secondary menstrual pain is caused by fibroid growths, pelvic inflammatory disease (PID),
endometriosis, or other disorders.
Menstrual cramps appear to be the
result of strong uterine contractions caused by prostaglandins. One of
the most successful treatment methods for minor menstrual cramps is
aspirin, which has some anti-prostaglandin effects. Women with more
severe cramps often find that ibuprofen is helpful.
Maybe most interestingly, some
women get relief from menstrual pain when they enjoy an orgasm.
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