|What Turns Women On!
Some Research Into What Attracts Women Sexually In Men
This material is the product of research into 200 women, who responded to a questionnaire about what they find attractive in men....The main groups of responses were (click on the link to go to that section):
Soundly Satisfying Sex Play
Foreplay brings vast delight to most couples in itself. However, it also contributes greatly to the success of sexual intercourse. The ideal preliminary sex play fills you with expanding, captivating, delightfully exciting, sexual arousal.
You can explore many varieties of mouth-to-mouth play in the course of a sexual encounter. Closed-mouth kissing with various degrees of pressure, with moist lips or with dry, with light brushing contact or with various motions, all yield pleasurable and exciting sensations under certain circumstances. Open-mouth play can be a momentary break in closed-mouth activity: just as her man presses his lips to hers, the woman bares her teeth and opens her mouth to give him a gentle, unexpected nip, then as he draws back she ardently presses her moist warm lips to his. After sexual excitement has become intense, a more prolonged interval of open-mouth play may build it further: both partners intermittently press their parted lips together, groping for sensitive spots with their tongue-tips and nipping gently at each other's lips and tongue.
Petting and embrace offer many ways of building sexual excitement and of keeping freshness and variety in your sex play. From the time your sexual desire first becomes aroused until the last whispered compliment before you say good night, your hands should rarely or never be entirely still. Man or woman, you should stroke, caress and embrace your partner in never-ceasing physical expression of your endearment, your excitement, and your sexual arousal.
You will usually find that rhythmic stroking caresses stir early sexual excitement most intensely. You can stroke the ears and ear lobes, hair, shoulders, arms and hands, inner thighs, breast area, lower abdomen, back and buttocks. Stroke through clothing at first, then shift to bare-skin contact as sexual arousal progresses. Sometimes a preliminary bath enhances your responsiveness to your partner's caress.
Playful tweaks and jiggles lend pleasant variety, freshness and surprise to your early love play. Pain pinches and nips fit in only at a much later stage of arousal but a sudden, unexpected stimulation gives excitement quite a boost in any phase of foreplay.
After you have both become moderately aroused, somewhat deeper-lying nerve fibers produce added excitement. Try bunching your fingertips together. Press them into a sexually sensitive area, such as the back or the lower abdomen, and move them back and forth or in a circle as far as the skin will readily stretch. In plumper areas such as the buttocks or thighs, pick up a fold of tissue between your thumb and fingers and use the same movements for stimulation. Do not pinch the skin painfully: only grasp it firmly enough to stimulate the deeper nerves.
Besides this form of finger-tip caress, most women find similar pressures and motions, applied with the fingers separated and partially bent, helpful in stimulating their partners' upper backs and chests. This caress works especially well in maintaining and building a man's excitement during periods of mouth-to-breast and mouth-to-body types of play. Time after time, women complain of inadequate preparation before intercourse when their men jump from a few kisses to fast insertion of the penis for no other reason than fear of losing their erection. The woman blames the man for neglect, the man doubts his own potency and control, and neither gets much satisfaction out of sex. Viewed as individual problems, the difficulties seem insoluble. Viewed as a couple problem, the difficulties almost always disappear. Once the woman knows how to maintain her husband's excitement she can easily keep his erection firm and secure for many minutes, leaving him free to stimulate her. By working as a couple they can prolong foreplay to fulfill both their sexual desires.
When sexual excitement has built up, strong, deep muscle-clutching caresses may stir a final surge. Strong clutching of the thighs or buttocks, fist-pounding on the upper back and other wild actions lend still further joy when sexual excitement runs high. Even raking your (male) partner's chest with your long (female) nails may heighten arousal when the time is ripe. Anything short of actual injury is fine in moments of greatest arousal. Hard caresses fit intense excitement only, though, and should be saved for moments of overwhelming passion.
One form of deep bodily caress deserves special mention: milk-duct massage. While surface stroking of a woman's breast excites her to some degree, the keenest sexual sensitivity centers in the milk ducts within and just behind the nipple. If her man flicks the nipple back and forth with the ball of his finger, the bending and straightening of the ducts stimulate nerve endings. Slightly more intense sensation stirs when he rolls the nipple underneath his thumb. Still stronger stimulation comes when he picks up the nipple between his thumb and index finger and rolls it back and forth. Some husbands prefer catching the nipple between their index and middle fingers, permitting sidewise rolling between the fingers, titillation with the thumb, thumb-rolling and a variety of exciting combinations which can bring a very sensitive and sensual woman to the very edge of climax.
In a few women, breast sensitivity is keenest in tissue buried an inch or more beneath the nipple. You can stimulate this area without bruising or damaging the breast by placing the flats of all four fingers below the nipple and stroking firmly (but not roughly) from above downward with the shaft of the thumb.
Embracing involves less variety than caress, but still contributes considerably to building up sexual excitement. If you start the serious build-up of sexual excitement locked in face-to-face embrace, your early caresses generally move from neck to shoulders to breast and back. With the woman's head in her husband's lap, her breasts, lower abdomen and thighs invite his prompt attention. A man reaching from behind finds his hands holding his woman's breast or abdomen while his lips seek out her earlobes and neck. The variety of caresses which different positions guarantee brings freshness to your sex life.
Bodily positions and movements similar to those occurring during intercourse (frottage) become increasingly exciting. Simply pressing your abdomens together or lying with the man locked between his lover's thighs will make passion run high! Some couples also enjoy close bodily contact during mouth, breast and general sex play. An intertwining of the legs to produce some friction of thigh on genitals sometimes adds excitement to breast and bodily caress.
Contact between nude areas usually proves most enticing when quite gentle, at least until intercourse begins. If you undress completely before a sexual encounter or during early stages of intimate play, you will find that an embrace which barely brings soft breasts against chest, which lays the husband's thigh against his woman's buttock, or which brushes leg on leg proves much more enticing than a crushing hug. Gentle contact stirs the sexually sensitive light-touch nerves while heavy pressure overwhelms them.
Naked embrace is simply a way of caressing with different body parts instead of with your hands. Like your hands, your other body parts stir excitement by moving lightly from place to place or shifting in rhythmic squeeze or stroke, not by pressing steadily against a sexually sensitive area. The female breast, the male genitals, the thighs and calves and feet can all produce light and enticing friction if properly applied.
Mouth-to-breast and oral sex
While any form of foreplay is normal, many people find oral sex challenging. But it is important! A woman will find that a man appreciates nothing more. Caressing or kissing her husband's cock and balls helps to build his sexual excitement and increase both his satisfaction and his capacity to please her.
A great many varieties of mouth-to-breast and mouth-to-body kisses and gentle nips of the neck, shoulders, chest or abdomen excite both men and women. Love nips along the top of the erect penis or gentler kisses around its head can bring sexual excitement to considerable height. A husband's mouth play with his woman's breasts gives tremendous excitement to both man and woman. Although a chain of kisses spiraling around the breast can be exciting, most mouth-breast play centers on the nipple area. At first, very gentle frictions of the nipple against moist mouth tissues excites the strongest response. Several techniques give this kind of contact: The man holds the nipple button gently between almost-limp lips, perhaps pouted outward to bring only their moist, smooth surfaces into contact. By rapid but gentle alternate blowing and sucking, he makes the nipple move in and out between his stationary lips.
With lips touching lightly or not at all, the man laps at the nipple with his tongue, runs the tip of his tongue around and across the button, or tries to press the button back into the breast with the tip of his tongue and then move it rapidly from side to side.
The man takes the whole nipple area into his mouth. Tucking the tip of his tongue down behind his lower teeth, he pushes the body of his tongue forward underneath the nipple, presses it up so that it catches the nipple against the roof of the mouth, and slides it backward in a gentle milking motion. He repeats this action rhythmically.
Somewhat deeper pressure on the nipple stimulates the milk ducts beneath for added sexual arousal. Most couples find one or more of these methods satisfactory: The man rolls his lips inward so that they cover his teeth and grasps the nipple button between them. By moving his jaw from side to side, he then rolls the nipple between firm surfaces.
The man takes the entire nipple into his mouth and milks it between the body of his tongue and his palate as above, but with some suction and firm pressure to make the stimulation deeper. Rocking the tongue from side to side adds interesting variety to this caress.
As a final fillip at the end of an episode of mouth-breast play, the man catches the nipple button gently between his lip-covered or bare teeth and either shakes his head gently or leans back to put the nipple under mild stretch.